Hello Friends! Welcome to Part 2 of the list of 13 ways to Life Life Your Way. This will continue to put things into perspective and help you live the large life you desire.
8. Make your appearance your own
Make sure you like what you wear, have your own personal style and look the way you want. You don't have to have the latest fashions but it's good to have your own look that's unique to you.
With regard to your body and your clothes, do you slouch to cover up certain flaws? Could your arms or legs do with a little firming and you find yourself complaining about them? If so, work on them or shut up! You're in charge of what you look like. If you don't feel great in your body, exercise and eat healthier to keep yourself in shape.
Your style has a lot to do with how you carry yourself. Be bold and move with boldness. Generate your energy. Mousiness will never look great; even in the best of clothes. For example, you could go out wearing sweatpants and give an air of confidence while wearing them because you feel confident, not because you're trying to hide something about yourself.
When you go out to shop, make sure you shop for what you really like; bring a trusted friend who can share with you his/her honest opinions about how you look. The ultimate truth is - if you're confident in your image, you will find clothes that will state that as a fact.
9. Create a go-to group
Create a go-to group. A go-to group is a group of friends that you respect and trust; friends that when you hit a wall or experience anything that derails you, they create a bigger stand for you in your life and they've got your back. They'll remind you gently when you need a good shake up.
If you can't afford a coach, a go-to group is perfect. Your group must not oach you or tell you what to do; what they'll do is remind you who you are and the commitment and goals that you're creating for your life. They'll provide you with pep talks and reality checks. Also, make sure you're a positive contributor to your go-to group to continue the circle of positivity.
10. Do something silly that makes you laugh until your tummy hurts
Go and see a really silly movie - there are a ton of them out there! When you go to a silly movie, you should laugh naturally; what I mean by naturally is at your own noise level and length of time. Be you; don't go to the movie and do what everyone does - the movie laugh track, when everyone starts laughing at the same time and finishes at the same time. So unnatural. That is censoring a natural emotion. Laugh until you are completely done.
I went to the movies on a date with a guy. We went to see Fat Albert. The movie was so corny! It made me laugh so much that even after people stopped laughing I was still laughing. It was great to just laugh. However, my date said aloud, "Note to self - never take you to see a movie again." Ask me if I cared.
I feel that laughing at a movie is a compliment to all the hard work it took to bring it to the big screen. I had a great time and felt completely free! Laughing makes you feel better and is good for you. Laugh often and laugh loud - it's contagious! Make and share jokes, engage your peeps and laugh at lot. Every time you laugh, a comedian get his chops. LOL!
11. Be emotionally okay
Be okay with your emotions; you have emotions so you can express them. Unexpressed emotions can cause a lot of emotional pain. If you're sad, express it. However, express it in a way that allows you to complete the cycle.
Don't go digging for sadness; don't go dredging up old relationships and add them to your new ones. If you need a good cry, cry and complete it. Don't blame other people for your sadness, your need to cry or for your crying.
If you're stressed out, look at what's causing the stress and create new actions to relieve it. Stress is a big killer and I'm sure you don't want to die or suffer stress-induced illness. Don't cover your emotions, express them. Release all emotions, frustrations and anger in a healthy and responsible way. You'll feel so much better after the release.
12. Write things down
Conversations and thoughts disappear, so write them down. Get yourself a little notebook and any time you have a great idea, learn something valuable from a conversation you're having or go to a yummy restaurant, write it down. Because let's be honest, you live a big life, you have tons sitting in your brain and you won't remember. Save your brain cells!
Also, when you whip out your little book in front of a loved one, you're actually telling that person that what they're saying is valuable enough to write down and you make him/her feel special.
13. Accept yourself as you are
Make an agreement with yourself to appreciate, validate, accept, and love yourself every moment. Don't think about things that you haven't achieved yet. Love yourself and accept yourself without reservation. You're very different and unique from everyone else. You're one-of-a-kind and quite beautiful. Accept your uniqueness; your path is different from everyone else's.
Start loving yourself by stopping the comparisons of yourself to others. Loving yourself means stepping outside of guilt. Detach yourself from the reactions of others. Assert yourself with some compassion. Show people who you are. When you show people who you are they get a chance to share themselves with you. When you judge yourself, you stand in the way of your self-love and you separate yourself from others. Stop separating and accept yourself now. You don't have to change anything about yourself.
Now go out there with the advice from this two-paper series and start living your biggest and best life!
If you need help with any of the points on this list, don't hesitate to reach out to me at noreensumptercoach.com to make an appointment for a FREE 15-minute hello call! I'm looking forward to speaking with to help you start your journey towards your best self! Love yourself! Until next time!