The truth is you'll always have time for busy; do whatever you want to take care of you.
There will always be times in life when you have a lot of things going on, especially if you're a person that wants a huge life. There will always be a situation where things will and can always go wrong or don't work out. There will be deadlines at work. You'll have a medical emergency. You'll feel guilty about what you did last night, last week and last year. The world, hell, the Universe will be screaming for your attention! This blog is a two-part series that includes a list of 13 ways to Live Life Your Way and live by your own design. In the first part, we will break down the first 7:
1. NO is what you say to anything that isn't important to you
Laundry isn't important to me. Having clean clothes is what's important and I don't have to do it. I can give it to someone else to do for me and I can use the time saved to do something else for myself. If "no" is too hard for you to say, start simple by saying "no" but offer an alternative option that you'd prefer more.
2. Ask for help
Asking for help is really important. A lot of people would rather sit in their misery than ask for help. Does this sound like you? Don't be afraid to ask for help and when you do ask, make sure you use it. Don't waste people's time talking about help and then don't use it. Most people revel in seeing you become successful and happy; it makes them feel useful and important. But also remember that people have the right to say yes or no when asked for help. People are grown and responsible for the choices they make; it's not your position to choose for them. Don't underestimate people and try to take advantage of them in a negative way. You'll turn them off and they'll never agree to help you again.
3. Stay in contact
It's important to stay in contact with your friends. People like to be acknowledged and feel like their friendships are important. There are 6+ billion people on the planet, and if you feel like you have no friends and no one loves you, then you know that you're not being a good friend. You need to express love and share love. Love is addictive. Giving love and expressing love feels good. Try it. Send a text, email, or make a quick call to let someone know you're thinking of them; it'll make a world of difference to your friend. Try this on for size - send out "I was thinking about you" messages to your friends and people that you want to be friends with and see what comes back. It's not weird. I'm doing five right now. Stop what you're doing and just do it. The first five people in your phone to start. I just sent out eight instead of five and got three responses already in eight minutes! Generally, the people you keep in your phone are friends. You don't have to keep in contact with everyone; most will be okay with it. However, keep in touch with people as best as you can - it will keep you happy and keep you inspired in your life.
4. Surround yourself with things you like
Surround yourself with things you enjoy or like. Don't buy or bring into your emotional space things you don't enjoy or like as they will pull emotional energy from you. When you're in a dumpy mood or have low energy, having things around you that you enjoy can cheer you up and bring up your energy levels. For example, the social media platform Pinterest is an awesome mood booster and you can view it on your computer or phone when you need a pick-me-up or a little inspiration.
5. Create a gratitude list
I usually provide this as a tool to my clients. At first, they find it difficult as it's another thing in life to do, another chore in a list of things. Once they start it, they realize that when they're grateful about what they have in their lives, they don't have time to whine about the things they don't have.
Gratitude provides you with a tool to protect yourself against negative influences, whether you have a tendency to make negative decisions or have negative people around you. Our negative thoughts and influences usually work through our subconscious mind and are often difficult to detect. Create a daily gratitude list - one where you share back and forth with like-minded friends who will empower you; creating dialogue instead of monologue - where negative thoughts don't have a chance to pollute your mind. Gratitude has the power to move you forward.
Keep a gratitude journal that you can go back to whenever you need a little boost. My clients who keep a gratitude journal and write in it on a ongoing basis experience a fuller and more expansive life and see their goals develop faster.
6. Keep a planner to stay organized
Keeping a planner makes life less crazy. It's good practice to put all the things that are important to you into it, including all things fun! Many people put in doctor's appointments, work meetings, and children's play dates, but they don't really schedule time for fun. Get into the habit of adding fun time to your planner. It's a really exciting thing to look in your planner and see that you've scheduled time for vacation, but it's also great to see that you've scheduled time for fun things with friends or on your own. Balance your time and give yourself the right to say "no, thank you" to an appointment you don't have time for or don't want to have.
7. Keep track of your wins
Write down your wins and keep notes on your achievements. For example, I got a write up in an online magazine - that's a big win for me so I wrote it down. If I hadn't written it down, I wouldn't have remembered it. Writing down your wins, achievements and milestones will help you when you feel that you've hit a wall in your personal life and allow you to see your positive contributions.
If you need help with any of the points on this list, don't hesitate to reach out to me at noreensumptercoach.com to make an appointment for a FREE 15-minute hello call! I'm looking forward to speaking with you and helping you start your journey towards your best self! Don't forget to check back next week for Part 2 where we will cover points 8-13! Love yourself! Until next time!