By Noreen Sumpter

April 26, 2018, 1:09 pm

 

You’re powerful, passionate, action-oriented and successful. But: As a high achiever, it can be a lonely world.

You're powerful, passionate, action-oriented and successful.

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I am powerful.
I am passionate.
I love to take action.
I know that I can be successful.

Do you say things like this about yourself? You know these things about yourself yet know something is still missing?

You’re powerful, passionate, action-oriented and successful. However, you can’t see your eyeballs, and you require some reflection. The mirror in your bathroom is not enough, and it can be annoying because you’re not getting any answers. You might be sick of this hum that you keep hearing.

Your biggest challenge is that you’re an extraordinary achiever and the people in your circle are not playing at the level that you are. You might be dumbing yourself down, plunging headfirst into an abyss of frustration that is hindering you and holding you back from what is possible in your life.

You have been doing what you know to do which now looks like a what I call the “wash, rinse, and repeat cycle.” You might have heard it, said it before or you’ve experienced it. However, that process, despite your success, is losing its effectiveness, and the sequence is not going to provide you with the success you want.

If you keep doing what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten.

In fact, the qualities that have had you experience this success are dated and are losing their juice which might be causing you frustration and, in turn, a loss of self. You might even hear yourself saying things like, “I always know what to do and now I don’t, and that is not me.” Well, my dear, it is you. If you keep doing what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten. I am here to tell you, you’re dated, and it might be time for an upgrade.

Through my work, I have discovered and experienced qualities or ways of being that help high achievers to be successful and to move forward. Being held back can become a curse and a blessing at the same time, making you a jack of all and a master of none.

You’re a visionary. You’re able to dream big and create. You have an unbelievable amount of projects. You have incompleted projects, and you have so many options which are detrimental to your success. You know these people. They are filled with ideas and have a hard time starting.

Exponential success. You experience success quickly. However, you judge, access and make yourself wrong because it seems like you’re not working hard enough. And you suffer a sense of worthlessness (your private hell) because of your judgments. People around think you’re amazing and powerful. However, you don’t feel good enough, smart enough. So you’re hiding out and feeling like a fake because you’re able to create exponential success in a short period. You get what you want when you take action.

You know you don’t have to work as hard as the average person, and if you don’t watch out, you’ll know you can get stuck in your life.

You know you’re not as productive as you could be.

You know you don’t have to work as hard as the average person, and if you don’t watch out, you’ll know you can get stuck in your life. Not being as productive as possible, and you know it. Your truth is only you know that you’re underperforming because most people think you’re a rock star, and you have no one to hold you accountable to your goals and actions.

You are a problem-solver. You get inspired and energized by challenges. Where most people struggle, burn out around problems, you solve them in a beat. This has you keeping to yourself and struggling to meet your long-term goals without support and accountability.

You never get the support you require because you do not share. People think that you don’t need it. People are intimidated by you because they see you as a person that doesn’t require help. So, you are a lone ranger who is not accountable to anyone, not even to yourself, missing out on creating the relationships with people who would be so happy to help you.

You focus on the future. So, you work toward the future, forgetting to live in the present, missing out on the life that you want to create.

You focus on the future. So, you work toward the future, forgetting to live in the present, missing out on the life that you want to create.

As a high achiever, you do not get the opportunity to engage with people in a whole, complete and perfect way. The higher your status– be it a career, economics or just your way of being– people around you never get toknow the true you. You don’t share and open up to others, and in turn, people are not open to speaking their truth. It is hard for them to be there because you cannot say what your “truth” is. When you are a top performer, you have a small number of people who are able or willing to speak, be courageous and say the things that you need to hear. As a high achiever, it can be a lonely world.

I am the only person in my client’s world who will speak honestly with them. I don’t give you mud covered with icing and tell you it’s cake. It’s mud no matter what. I don’t sugar coat. You pay me for support, truth, reflection and accountability so that you can fulfill your dreams, goals and desires. I tell it to you as I hear it by reflecting back to you so that you can see and hear your bullshit. I am not here to please you. I am your coach. I tell you what others are not bold or courageous enough to say. I coach from an authentic and vulnerable space.


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About The Author

Noreen Sumpter is a Personal Life Coach: Born and raised in South East England. Noreen Came to New York in 1985 with $60.00 and a suitcase. She is a Personal Life Coach, Founder and creator of the Live Life Your Way Program. She works with High Achievers who have created wonderful careers for themselves and now they want to take their personal life and confidence to a whole other strata. Noreen supports them to remain committed to their personal goals, clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, so they can take deliberate steps, owning their voice, speaking their truth, having the freedom to develop a balanced life and career by living life their way. Noreen's belief is "Live Life Your Way." You can visit her website at www.noreensumptercoach.com

Noreen Sumpter is a Personal Life Coach: Born and raised in South East England. Noreen Came to New York in 1985 with $60.00 and a suitcase. She is a Personal Life Coach, Founder and creator of the Live Life Your Way Program. She works with High Achievers who have created wonderful careers for themselves and now they want to take their personal life and confidence to a whole other strata. Noreen supports them to remain committed to their personal goals, clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, so they can take deliberate steps, owning their voice, speaking their truth, having the freedom to develop a balanced life and career by living life their way. Noreen's belief is "Live Life Your Way." You can visit her website at www.noreensumptercoach.com

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