By Noreen Sumpter

August 2, 2017, 2:39 pm

 
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Know, Like and Trust –then there’s no turning back

The first step with regards to doing anything is more often than not the most difficult.

However, Martin Luther King, a.k.a. my birthday twin and hero said, “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

The first step is like a breath of fresh air. “Fear nothing, attempt everything, unknow!” -Unknown

Take the first step to owning your voice, speaking your truth, and fall in love with yourself.

Like most things in life, what it commonly boils down to is simple: we need each other – whether we like it or not. If we are to exist and live, we require healthy relationships that can teach us how to know and expand ourselves. How we speak to ourselves, the opinions we have, and labels we give ourselves are a telltale sign of how we manage ourselves and will determine how we choose to share and treat others.

I like to base this on the three phases of creating relationships, which is widely used in business networking, and I’ll use here to show how we love ourselves. An example of this is the Know, Like, and Trust Factor. To have a successful relationship, consider that if you understand these three phases, and use them on yourself and others to create relationships.

There’s no difference between having a relationship with yourself or another person. Having a relationship with another person gives you a mirror to see yourself. It’s important that we take these phases, put them into action, and then practice them. Adopting these steps will help you build meaningful connections which can result in meaningful, stable relationships.

Step 1: Know

Just like you would get to know another human being, it’s important to get to know yourself. It’s important to know yourself in a way that allows you to know and share what you’re about. What you say about yourself becomes law in your universe. So asking yourself questions is important to know and understand what you’re saying about yourself and how you show up in the world amongst your friends, colleagues, family, and everyone. Such as:

-What do I do?

-What do I know?

-Where am I from?

-What am I interested in?

-What inspires me?

-What am I committed to?

-What do I care about?

-Who am I as a human being?

-What do I love about my life? Myself? (This one’s my favorite)

As we all know, there are a million-and-one questions one could ask and know about oneself. However, the key is to be able to share your discoveries so that others can be related to what you know about yourself and, in turn, feel free to share themselves.

The more you know about yourself, and the more you can share, the more open and secure you will be. Personal freedom provides a space for others to know you and, in turn, you will get to know them. However, there are no guarantees. No one has to share themselves with you. Consider what it takes for you to learn about yourself. It might’ve not been easy. It calls for a particular level of trust which brings us to step number 2:

Step 2: Like

The “Like” I’m talking about is how you feel about yourself. It’s not the kind of “like” where you compromise yourself because you want to be validated. That kind lives as no respect; no sense of self “like me; please like me.” The kind where one is not very confident and will compromise themselves. That is not the same “like.”

“Do you like yourself?” is one of the first questions I often ask my clients. What I’ve

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About The Author

Noreen Sumpter is a Personal Life Coach: Born and raised in South East England. Noreen Came to New York in 1985 with $60.00 and a suitcase. She is a Personal Life Coach, Founder and creator of the Live Life Your Way Program. She works with High Achievers who have created wonderful careers for themselves and now they want to take their personal life and confidence to a whole other strata. Noreen supports them to remain committed to their personal goals, clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, so they can take deliberate steps, owning their voice, speaking their truth, having the freedom to develop a balanced life and career by living life their way. Noreen's belief is "Live Life Your Way." You can visit her website at www.noreensumptercoach.com

Noreen Sumpter is a Personal Life Coach: Born and raised in South East England. Noreen Came to New York in 1985 with $60.00 and a suitcase. She is a Personal Life Coach, Founder and creator of the Live Life Your Way Program. She works with High Achievers who have created wonderful careers for themselves and now they want to take their personal life and confidence to a whole other strata. Noreen supports them to remain committed to their personal goals, clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, so they can take deliberate steps, owning their voice, speaking their truth, having the freedom to develop a balanced life and career by living life their way. Noreen's belief is "Live Life Your Way." You can visit her website at www.noreensumptercoach.com

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