By Noreen Sumpter

May 12, 2015, 4:30 pm

 

golden microphone on stage

golden microphone on stage

It’s time for you to speak up for yourself and find your voice. To create the way you want to be treated and live.

How will you ever find peace? If you are allowing people to treat you like a doormat, then a doormat is what you will become.

Do you find yourself upset, resenting people and not taking responsibility for what you need to say? Is your stomach constantly in knots and you’re swallowing your voice? Then you might discover that you’re angry. You might be angry at your boss, spouse, friends, children, and most of all, yourself.

Are you getting work at your job that you don’t want? So you do it anyway, and you’re good at it. However, you’re now getting it all the time but you want to do something different, something with more zest. But, you’re afraid of your boss. He speaks fast, he shouts when he talks and this intimidates you. You’re frustrated and afraid. You feel confronted and do not like confrontation.

With fear of this kind, how will you ever get your boss or anyone to listen to you? Subconsciously, you decide that you’ll keep doing what you’re given and not cause any waves. So you allow yourself to get burned out and constantly upset. You begin to feel inadequate. The job you once loved and were hired to do is now becoming a very heavy burden. Instead of taking action and using your voice, you continue to get yourself worked up, and ultimately you start resenting yourself for being silent.

As a result, everything in your life begins to get on your nerves. You start a cycle of constant complaining, making yourself wrong, and the job that you loved and fought so hard to get is now wrong. Why? Because you start to believe that you are cowardly and refused to stand up for yourself. You are now in a state of constant mental pain every time you go to work. Furthermore, you’ve worn out all your friends with your constant badgering and complaining. As a result, you’re contemplating finding another job.

Quitting: how will this situation make your life better? The fact of the matter is, it’s not the job or the people. It is you. You find another job. But in reality, you remain the same. You have not learned to speak up for yourself. So you are at the mercy of hoping that people will be able read your mind, so you will only create this negative scenario over and over again. You start living in your head creating mantras “I am not appreciated.” The more you say it, the more you will believe and the more it shows up because you start looking for the mantra everywhere you go.

Finding your voice is an important feature as it facilitates your ability to create yourself.

Creating and using your voice is one of the most important ways to have and live the life you want. Imagine for a second what happens to you when you don’t have your own voice? When you allow others to dictate to you by virtue of what they want because you allow them to control your voice?

Imagine again for another second that you create a love of yourself and your voice. What would you be able to be, do, and have in your life? Would you have the ability to create confidence and self-respect? Would you be fully established and free to have a powerful voice? Would your voice be an important factor in your life? Voice and speaking is the one thing that separates humans from animals and primates. Communication using language for this reason helps you communicate your needs, wishes and desires.

Furthermore, the implication of not using your voice and the result it has on your life is your personal belief system and becomes your reality.

This is your life, and you get to live it how you want. It takes practice to release negative habits, ideas and images of fear. The first step is always the hardest, but if you do it, it will be the most memorable, as the spell will be broken.

Fear nothing. You can attempt everything. But most of all, speak up for yourself, find your voice and gain your personal power.

Noreen Sumpter

Personal Life Coach


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About The Author

Noreen Sumpter is a Personal Life Coach: Born and raised in South East England. Noreen Came to New York in 1985 with $60.00 and a suitcase. She is a Personal Life Coach, Founder and creator of the Live Life Your Way Program. She works with High Achievers who have created wonderful careers for themselves and now they want to take their personal life and confidence to a whole other strata. Noreen supports them to remain committed to their personal goals, clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, so they can take deliberate steps, owning their voice, speaking their truth, having the freedom to develop a balanced life and career by living life their way. Noreen's belief is "Live Life Your Way." You can visit her website at www.noreensumptercoach.com

Noreen Sumpter is a Personal Life Coach: Born and raised in South East England. Noreen Came to New York in 1985 with $60.00 and a suitcase. She is a Personal Life Coach, Founder and creator of the Live Life Your Way Program. She works with High Achievers who have created wonderful careers for themselves and now they want to take their personal life and confidence to a whole other strata. Noreen supports them to remain committed to their personal goals, clear mental clutter and dissolve limiting beliefs, so they can take deliberate steps, owning their voice, speaking their truth, having the freedom to develop a balanced life and career by living life their way. Noreen's belief is "Live Life Your Way." You can visit her website at www.noreensumptercoach.com

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